BDSM support: boundaries, pressure and help
Guidance after difficult private BDSM contacts, events or studio enquiries.
Introduction
Adults may object, stop and ask for distance even within an agreed role. Ignored boundaries or distress do not have to be accepted as part of that role.
After a distressing contact
First seek distance and suitable contact with a trusted person or independent service. You do not need to resolve an experience with the other person before seeking support. The services below are independent of Strafbock.
Advice on rights and professional matters
For dominas, submissives, studios and other BDSM providers, questions about self-employment, legal obligations or professional support may arise. These specialist services can help.
- ProKoRe (national network).The Swiss umbrella organisation represents the political and legal interests of sex workers - leaflets on laws and rights at work.procore-info.ch
- Flora Dora (City of Zurich).Regional contact point for Zurich: registration rules, residence, taxes and social security. Website in German; in-person counselling is also available in English and other languages.stadt-zuerich.ch/floradora (German website)
- XENIA (sex work counselling).Health insurance, taxes, bookkeeping or leaving sex work (focus canton Bern).xeniabern.ch (German-language service)
Protection from pressure, exploitation and stalking
No BDSM contact justifies pressure, threats, stalking or financial exploitation. These independent services offer confidential advice and practical support.
- FIZ (counselling on trafficking and women's migration).Advice regardless of residence status - protection, shelter and legal support in cases of threats, pressure or financial exploitation.fiz-info.ch
- Regional services (Central & Eastern Switzerland).Depending on region, e.g. Verein LISA or AHSGA - local support.verein-lisa.chahsga.ch
Health and confidential advice
Your wellbeing comes first. The following services offer confidential support on sexual health, prevention and psychosocial issues.
- Sexuelle Gesundheit Schweiz.National platform on STIs, contraception and sexual rights; overview of counselling and testing.sexuelle-gesundheit.ch
- Sex and Facts.Multilingual portal with medically reviewed content on sexuality and health.sexandfacts.ch
- SeGZ (sexual health Zurich).Counselling and services for sexual health, HIV and other sexually transmitted infections in the canton of Zurich.segz.ch
- Checkpoint Zürich.Medical and psychosocial sexual health services, including HIV and other STIs, particularly for queer people.cpzh.ch
Immediate help in cases of violence, coercion and crisis
strafbock.ch has zero tolerance for violence, coercion, stalking or digital harassment. Get help, even if you do not want to make a police report.
- Opferhilfe Schweiz.For psychological, physical or sexualised violence - confidential counselling.opferhilfe-schweiz.ch
- StopNCII.org.Free tool if someone threatens to publish intimate images or videos without consent, or if this has already happened. Creates a hash on your device - files never leave your device. The hash is shared with participating platforms to detect and remove redistribution.stopncii.org
- Police emergencyIn immediate danger:117
Our commitment as a platform
Strafbock provides information and profiles but does not arrange meetings or process payments. Concerning profiles can be reported using their report function. A platform report does not replace independent support.
External links lead to independent third-party organisations. strafbock.ch is not responsible for their content; information without guarantee - status at time of publication.