Consent, stop signals and time afterwards
Consent must be freely given and may be withdrawn at any time. Discuss wanted and excluded activities beforehand and keep checking in during contact. A role, previous agreement or payment does not replace present consent.
How do we agree on consent and boundaries?
Consent must be freely given and may be withdrawn at any time. Discuss wanted and excluded activities beforehand and keep checking in during contact. A role, previous agreement or payment does not replace present consent.
Does a safeword guarantee safety?
No. Agree on a clear stop signal and another understandable response if speech is unavailable. Pay attention to each other and stop when uncertain or when a response is missing. A signal supports communication; it does not automatically make a situation safe.
How do we discuss the time after contact?
Ask beforehand whether rest, conversation or distance is preferred and whether a brief later check-in is welcome. Needs can differ. An agreed conclusion does not oblige anyone to stay in touch or replace professional support for ongoing distress.
Frequently asked questions
How do we agree on consent and boundaries?
Consent must be freely given and may be withdrawn at any time. Discuss wanted and excluded activities beforehand and keep checking in during contact. A role, previous agreement or payment does not replace present consent.
Does a safeword guarantee safety?
No. Agree on a clear stop signal and another understandable response if speech is unavailable. Pay attention to each other and stop when uncertain or when a response is missing. A signal supports communication; it does not automatically make a situation safe.